Comments on: It’s a ‘no’ day http://www.frenzieddaddy.com/static/archives/2007/03/06/its-a-no-day/ It is in the compelling zest of high adventure and of victory, and in creative action, that man finds his supreme joys. --- Antoine de Saint-Exupery Mon, 13 Oct 2008 13:10:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: cris http://www.frenzieddaddy.com/static/archives/2007/03/06/its-a-no-day/#comment-3537 cris Mon, 19 Mar 2007 18:58:14 +0000 http://www.frenzieddaddy.com/static/archives/2007/03/06/its-a-no-day/#comment-3537 I think you did just fine handling the situation. As someone who grew up with a mom who constantly let me know our money woes, I don't think it is such a bad thing to shelter your kids. I remember being acutely aware of our socio-economic status and feeling really awful about it. I do, however, like Alli's suggestion of talking about sticking to a budget. As for how to handle junk food, if you figure that out let me know. Jasper points out every Wendy's and Burgerville he sees while we drive around. It's less than charming. Oh well. I think you did just fine handling the situation. As someone who grew up with a mom who constantly let me know our money woes, I don’t think it is such a bad thing to shelter your kids. I remember being acutely aware of our socio-economic status and feeling really awful about it. I do, however, like Alli’s suggestion of talking about sticking to a budget.
As for how to handle junk food, if you figure that out let me know. Jasper points out every Wendy’s and Burgerville he sees while we drive around. It’s less than charming. Oh well.

]]> By: Alli http://www.frenzieddaddy.com/static/archives/2007/03/06/its-a-no-day/#comment-3489 Alli Fri, 09 Mar 2007 18:22:47 +0000 http://www.frenzieddaddy.com/static/archives/2007/03/06/its-a-no-day/#comment-3489 I think a mix of both is probably the best idea. *yeah I know no kids here* You dont want to say no we dont have the money to your kids every time they want to do something and you have to say no. That makes it about the money and not about your parents saying no. That said Miss B is a smart kid. If you explain to her that you all are cutting back on extras so that you can keep to budget it would be an excellent learning tool. Learning to Budget is perhaps one of the greatest skills of modern survial you could teach her. No matter what she chooses to do in life she will need that one. As to the teasing thing, its good that you treat them as freinds as well as daughters. Friends are people, ie if you treat them as you would treat your friends there is more to your realtionship then the unequal one of father to daughter. That said you still have to be the father unit. Just dont go to far. I think a mix of both is probably the best idea. *yeah I know no kids here* You dont want to say no we dont have the money to your kids every time they want to do something and you have to say no. That makes it about the money and not about your parents saying no. That said Miss B is a smart kid. If you explain to her that you all are cutting back on extras so that you can keep to budget it would be an excellent learning tool. Learning to Budget is perhaps one of the greatest skills of modern survial you could teach her. No matter what she chooses to do in life she will need that one.

As to the teasing thing, its good that you treat them as freinds as well as daughters. Friends are people, ie if you treat them as you would treat your friends there is more to your realtionship then the unequal one of father to daughter. That said you still have to be the father unit. Just dont go to far.

]]> By: Steven http://www.frenzieddaddy.com/static/archives/2007/03/06/its-a-no-day/#comment-3487 Steven Thu, 08 Mar 2007 01:14:50 +0000 http://www.frenzieddaddy.com/static/archives/2007/03/06/its-a-no-day/#comment-3487 Being someone who eats out way...waywayway too much (way), I don't think I can solve that part, but maybe you can turn it into some fun and inspiring activity. There's books (...lots of pieces of paper with words on them glued together with goblin snot...seriously) that tell you how to mimic the "fast food treats", usually for less money than it costs to go out (gas!) and buy it (...delayed gas!). Might be a fun way to spend a night, creating items that might end up being even better than McD's-bought, and probably cheaper/healthier. Being someone who eats out way…waywayway too much (way), I don’t think I can solve that part, but maybe you can turn it into some fun and inspiring activity. There’s books (…lots of pieces of paper with words on them glued together with goblin snot…seriously) that tell you how to mimic the “fast food treats”, usually for less money than it costs to go out (gas!) and buy it (…delayed gas!). Might be a fun way to spend a night, creating items that might end up being even better than McD’s-bought, and probably cheaper/healthier.

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